Blogger was down yesterday, so I'm making up for lost time. Here's a quick series of work/family/at-home thoughts that ripped through the blogosphere. First, there was this Boheminian Mama post, commenting on the impossible standards for mothers. She then linked to Conflict Girl, who makes this comment "Keeping work life and home life so diametrically opposed does not make us more productive workers, it just makes us miserable. I am not sure how to change this, but something needs to be done."

She, in turn, links to this piece, which again defends the at-home choice. (Sample comment: " Wait a minute. “Having it all” requires having a job? When did we forget that work sucks?" And the link in that post finally gets us to an answer about how to change work/family balance (in this year-old New Republic piece on women waiting to get pregnant so they can establish themselves professionally): "Now, you can argue that it's unrealistic to expect red-blooded American men to play Mr. Mom or profit-driven companies to adopt family-friendly policies. But both options are a damn site more realistic than, say, trying to make an old ovum new again. In terms of baby-making, men have the overwhelming biological edge. It's absolutely crazy for us to let them off so easy in the cultural department as well. At the very least, the focus of this discussion should shift away from women sniping at one another about 'the right way' to cope with the dictates of biology. If we really want to improve our options in the workplace, it's time to stop the infighting and put a little more heat on Daddy."

So there we go. The end of the Mommy Wars depends on Rebel Dads. It suppose it's as Peter Baylies always says: "Men who change diapers change the world."