Ann Landers's former editors have their own advice column now, called Annie's Mailbox, and today they respond to the query of a working mother who thinks her at-home father should be cleaning more. The answer: "Charlie should be doing the bulk of the daily housework since he is home all day while the children are in school. But that doesn't mean you can't do a little more."

It reminds me a Jay Massey quote once, that goes something like this (apologies to Jay ... I'm doing this from memory): "People ask who cleans the house. But when they walk in the door, it becomes clear who cleans: nobody."